Naperville Divorce Law Blog

Mediation can help reduce the impact of divorce on children

When you make the decision to end your marriage, many people will feel the impact, especially your children. No matter how distressed, angry or downright shattered you and your spouse may be about the divorce itself, your first priority must be the welfare of your kids and how they will deal with the family breakup going forward.

You might view mediation as the first of many steps you can take to help reduce the impact of divorce on your children.

Fair or not, women shoulder the burden of 'gray divorce'

Over the past 25 years, the divorce rate has dropped among every demographic except one - married couples over 50. Since 1990, divorce has not only become more common among this group, but the divorce rate for people approaching or in their retirement years has roughly doubled.

The media call this phenomenon "gray divorce," a title that dramatically underemphasizes what people actually feel when facing the prospect of suddenly being divorced after decades of marriage.

Resetting your marriage with a postnuptial agreement

Sometimes a marriage needs freshening up. Sometimes you need to put new guidelines in place. While a prenuptial agreement goes into effect prior to a wedding, the postnuptial agreement becomes a reality at some point after a couple marries.

Creating a postnuptial agreement is like pushing the reset button on your marriage. It can address everything from the handling of your finances in the event of divorce to who should be responsible for taking out the trash.

A Look At the New Illinois 'Income Shares' Child Support Model

Illinois family courts are using a new "income shares" formula to determine the amount of child support a noncustodial parent pays to a custodial parent. Under the new law, which went into effect July 1, both parents' incomes will be considered when calculating the amount of child support a noncustodial parent pays to a custodial parent.

Previously, child support in Illinois was calculated by taking the paying parent's net income (gross income minus taxes and other deductions) and applying a certain percentage based on the number of minor children. For example, a noncustodial parent with one minor child would pay 20 percent of net income in child support; a noncustodial parent with two minor children would pay 28 percent of net income.

Do you need to modify your child custody agreement?

You and your ex-spouse may have been doing very well with the child custody agreement that has been in place since your divorce. But life throws curve balls every so often, and a circumstance may have developed that necessitates a change in your agreement.

You may be uncertain about the modification process, dreading the thought of going before a judge. An experienced family law attorney can help you through it. The modification procedure is not as onerous as you might imagine.

Helping your children understand an amicable divorce

The last thing you and your spouse wanted was a bitter divorce. It was important to both of you to keep rancor out of the process for the sake of your children especially. But to your consternation, the kids are bewildered by the breakup. It does not make sense to them.

Because the kids are not taking the divorce the way you assumed they would, you are facing issues you did not expect, but there are positive steps you can take to resolve those issues.

Could social media affect your divorce?

Money might be the number one reason that couples divorce, but social media also contributes to many breakups. Social media activity can also impact your divorce proceedings, especially in situations where the finances are complex and there is a lot of animosity. 

If you are going through a divorce, you might want to consider how social media could affect your negotiations. 

The value of effective listening skills in divorce

Divorce rates have consistently hovered around the 50 percent mark for some time, and with its increased acceptance has come some insight into behaviors that can effectively minimize the stress. According to The Huffington Post, the most commonly cited reason for a divorce is poor communication. If communication issues have led to your split, you can still navigate divorce more easily by developing and applying active listening skills. Here are a few reasons such skills can benefit you. 

Setting up a visitation schedule that works for everybody

The arrangements that follow divorce can be contentious and stressful to negotiate, but it does not have to be that way. If both parents commit to being mature, flexible and compassionate, creating a visitation schedule that works for everybody is entirely possible. According to the Washington Post, children who have parents who share custody fare far better than those who are raised by a single parent. It is worth it to make the arrangements work, and you can get a head start on the goal by taking the following tips into consideration.

Understanding retirement plans and divorce

When it comes to divorce, one of the most contentious aspects is determining the fair division of assets. If one or both partners has a retirement plan established, it can be tricky to agree on a division for the account. The value of such a plan will vary, but if it has been built on continual savings as experts recommend, it may be substantial. There are a few important principles you should understand if you or your partner will be negotiating how a retirement plan is split. 

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