The process of a divorce can leave Illinois residents very angry at their estranged spoused, but it is best to try to avoid expressing it, even if the spouse provokes it. It might feel satisfying in the short run to snap at a spouse or even to confront them at work or on social media, but over the long run, this may backfire.
The more acrimonious a divorce is, the more stressful it is. Even if only one spouse can keep their emotions in check, this might deescalate the entire situation. It will be easier to negotiate an agreement and to co-parent afterwards if people try to treat one another with courtesy during the divorce process. Some divorces may become so acrimonious that one spouse calls the other at work or even goes to the spouse’s workplace and starts an argument. This can hurt that other spouse professionally, and this may affect what assets are available to divide in the divorce.
It can also reflect negatively on a parent in a custody battle. Judges attempt to make a decision that is in the best interests of the child, and this means choosing a parent who shows good judgment. Even a momentary outburst may affect a judge’s perception of a parent’s fitness, and phone calls or messages may be recorded for use in court.
An attorney may be helpful in preparing clients for how to conduct themselves in family court. An attorney can also help with negotiations. In some situations, it can be difficult to avoid being overwhelmed by emotions, but working with an attorney may help a person stay focused on the main purpose of the negotiations or of litigation if it is necessary to go to court.