Women in Illinois who are going through a divorce and have children are likely concerned about the impact the divorce is going to have on their children. In a recent poll, almost three in four women said that they were concerned about their children’s welfare after divorce and about their ability to provide financially for their children.
There is a train of thought that says that in order for woman to be able to look after her kids, she also needs to look after herself. What looking after oneself means can vary from person to person. It could entail talking to a therapist or working with a financial planner in creating a budget that allows a person to live within their means while planning for their child’s future. Another part of caring for oneself after divorce could be keeping social connections alive and engaging with friends and family.
Divorcing women must bear in mind that even if the divorce is the best decision for a child in the long term, the divorce is turning the child’s life upside down now. Part of caring for children after divorce may involve talking with their teachers and letting their teachers know what the child is going through. If children are feeling down, they may want to talk to a therapist about their feelings. Parents should encourage their children to be open with them and discuss what they are feeling. This is key to helping children be successful in the years following a divorce.
Child custody issues can be a hotbed topic during the divorce proceedings. The courts strive to make decisions that are in the best interests of the children. A family law attorney may be able to help a divorcing woman prove that her having custody of the children is in their best interest. The attorney may also help a client understand financial issues, such as property valuation and division as it pertains to divorce.